...and then I proposed her!!
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‘What if he comes with a formal marriage proposal? Will you agree to it?!’
I
asked with a tinge of smile on my face as if I knew the answer. Somehow the
countless hours we spent talking with each other instilled a positive feeling
inside my head which made me think that I knew the answer.
The
brief silence was interrupted by her voice which by now keeps ringing in my
ears even while I sleep.
‘Yes,
I guess I will. It is not because I have something for him. I will agree to any
marriage which my parents are convinced about’.
Her
reply came without much of a thought. It was almost instantaneous.
My
heart started beating in my mouth. I had the feeling of free fall. My lungs choked.
I gasped for breath.
We
studied in the same school and I have known her ever since. In the three years
we studied together and the countless times we saw each other in the next five
years, apart from glances we never exchanged a single word.
So
it took eight long years and Mark Zuckerberg for us to start conversing!
I
was not a fan of virtual relationships. Little do the words spoken via optic
cables convey real emotions. They are capable of concealing more than conveying
and I hate concealed minds. Nevertheless I have to say that our relation had the
three ‘w’s attached to it!
’Hello...you
there?’ Her voice brought me back to
consciousness.
‘Hmmm…yeah,
tell me’. I said regaining my composure.
‘Why
did you ask this question?’ she asked in her sweet voice.
‘Just
out of curiosity’ I replied.
I
was unprepared to take further questions, just as I was unprepared for her
answer to my first question. The conversation continued for some more time with
me giving mostly one word replies and affirmative sounds. I hung up shortly
after that and laid face down on my bed.
At
times in life, realizations come after long sessions of introspection and at
times like these; they come in the jolt of a moment!
Chatting
over the internet had become a routine and then at one point she came to a
situation where the internet access became limited only to the weekends, thanks
to her hostel life! That took our relation to the next level – cell phones!!
I
had a picture of her drawn in my mind over the many text chats we have had. I
had imagined her voice; the way she speaks, the way she laughs, the way she
jokes and what not! But my imaginations had little to do with reality and our
first call was pretty uneventful. So was the second, third and the umpteenth!
But now when I turn back, I see that each one of those ‘uneventful’ phone calls
ended up adding something to the most eventful phone call of my life!
Starting
off as a school mate, she went on to become a very close friend with whom I
could talk anything without reservations. That is one trademark feature of her
which attracted me. I love ‘free-talkers’ and ‘open-minders’.
So
we talked and talked and talked …endlessly. Never once we hesitated to use the
phrase ‘I love you’ in our conversations. And we were tolerant to each others
‘naughty’ behaviors at times which never crossed the lines. I still remember,
once I had ‘accidentally’ sent a kissing smiley to her and waited for her
response!
She said …. ‘Wrong smiley’ with a wink!
She said …. ‘Wrong smiley’ with a wink!
Applying
for the Indian Navy was a major turning point in our relationship. It was then
I started to tease her saying that ‘if I get selected, I will come to your home
with a marriage proposal!’ It added certain flair to our relationship. In fact
somewhere in the corner of my mind, I enjoyed saying this to her and I was sure
that somewhere in her mind she enjoyed it too.
In
this technology driven world, it is very difficult to keep things private,
especially when you forget to remove the contact picture of your special friend
when you go to a testosterone charged Naval Station. Needless to say, I
committed that blunder!
When
the smiling face flashed on my cell phone screen, the first question which I
encountered is ... ’girlfriend hai kya?’
I
had only a split second to answer YES or NO. I went for YES! And then I started
to convince myself that a NO at that point would have attracted more questions
and that was the only reason I said YES!!
It
was followed by some dialogues which kept ringing in my ears for many more days
to come.
‘Achhi
ladki hai yaar! Aajkal aisi ladki milna bahut mushkil hota hein. Jaldi se jaldi
shaadi kar lo. Chod dena math!’
Even
now I cannot comprehend how by seeing a photo one can say like this. But it
hardly mattered. The damage has been done!
Getting
selected for Navy was one of the happiest moments in my life. I called her up
and said, ‘get ready to become the wife of a Navy officer!’ Her joy was
indescribable. I could feel it right through my phone. But I could enjoy it
only for a little while as the time allowed for us were very limited and I had
to hang up the phone. Little did I know then that I missed a kiss over the
phone! Our first kiss and I missed it!!
I
could not sleep. I still couldn’t comprehend her response to my question. ‘Did
I make a mistake reading her mind? Did I miscalculate? Where did I go wrong?’
Questions flooded my mind and I panted for answers.
She
was there in front of me. She smiled but that smile gradually fainted. Suddenly
it started to rain. She was there beyond that huge iron gate. Water level rose
steeply. She kept staring at me. I could smell water. It rose above my
nose…above my eyes…above my head. Water entered my nostrils. I gasped for
breath. Somewhere in distance I heard a familiar song.
With
a jolt, I opened my eyes! The song stopped. I was panting. Sun rays swept across the room through the
open window. I pulled myself up back to senses with deliberation.
The
song started playing again. It was my cell phone and her ringtone. Her face
beamed from the Sony bravia screen.
‘Hello..!’
My voice was cold.
‘Still
sleeping?’ asked the familiar voice. Her voice had mixed feelings in it.
‘Yeah’
I said. My voice still cold.
‘What
happened yesterday?’ she asked.
I
dint know what to say. So I gave her the custom made reply… ’Nothing!’
‘Why are you lying?’ her voice turning somber.
‘If
you are sure that I am lying to you, then you should be knowing the truth!’ I
could have said it in a bit more humane way.
She
started to cry. ‘I never said I loved him!!’ The sobs became heavier.
Tears
are the deadliest weapon a woman can ever use on a man.
‘Please
don’t cry dear…I am sorry!’ I tried to pacify her and succeeded to an extent.
When
you are caught up in a time frame with two options in your hand whether to go
or not to go; to do it or not to do it; to say it or not to say it; and you
can’t arrive at a decision with logical reasoning, then always go with the
green signal. Go-Do-Say!! A wise advice from one of my greatest friends flashed
in my mind.
‘How
far is your marriage?’ I asked.
‘Around
three years’..
‘Are
you sure that you won’t fall in love with someone within that three years?’ I
asked.
‘No
I am not…why?’ She enquired.
‘Then
better be sure about that. I don’t want to see my girl hanging out with some
dung-head!!’ I said smiling.
‘What…??!!’
She sounded like she can never become more surprised in her life.
…and then I proposed her!!